Wednesday, August 24, Fourteen Facts about Sex. He is also very knowledgeable in matters of Halacha and Hashkafa. He has however chosen to remain anonymous. So without giving away his identity, I will only say that he is someone whose opinion I truly value.
What follows are his words unedited in their entirety. Here are a few facts or opinions from someone with experience: 1 Sexual addictions exist despite the DSM , and can have withdrawal symptoms.
One can gamble until all money is gone. Even sexual behavior has its satiation point. In contrast, porn lacks an end point. It is visual stimulation, and it is only through imagery that one gets any excitement from it. Since it is close to endless, it has potential to become extremely ingrained. She is not responsible. Rather, everyone has desires, and needs to learn how to channel them toward kedusha and marriage rather than to leave them unbridled.
The internet just rendered this accessible to every computer and most cell phones. Women circulate, and the eyes of men wander all the time. One gadol stated clearly that a man who has just seen something on the street is not evil or guilty, but the second glance is the issur. Even a tzniusdige style can be provocative to a gazer.
Our Chasanim and Kallahs generally have a teacher for halachos. Sadly, many of these are far from competent. Since they are often the first authority figures that engage in discussing these subjects, they are first to be consulted by newlyweds.
